It can be anything someone said to you big or small, or maybe joked about you several years ago or even your disbelief in yourself. When it comes to low self-esteem, the triggers can be hundreds, and the consequences – thousands.
Your own low self-worth can hinder you from moving in life. Think about it – how would you grow when you believe you don’t have it in you? How would you do something you should do when you decide you’d fail? It all comes down to self-worth in the end.
Your low self-worth can be the main reason for your insecurities. Ergo, building self-respect is important not only
I can tell you from personal experience, I didn’t grow up with someone telling me how great or capable I was. It was quite the opposite, with brutal honesty. Sure, I developed thick skin but knowing that I was worth something or good enough to achieve something else I had to do it all on my own. And now, you don’t have to wonder any longer, read on, it’s all here for you!
5 tips to build your self-worth when no one told you how
1. Be kind to yourself
Do you often blame yourself for random things happening in your life? Do you ever find yourself saying that you don’t deserve something good?
If you do, you are being hard on yourself. Trust me when I say this, Nobody’s perfect. Everyone makes mistakes, maybe, you did too. Perhaps you were immature, perhaps you were too naïve. But just so you know, we all change, and we grow because of our experiences – even when they are bad.
So, if you understand what you did; regret it, and make up for your mistakes– that’s enough. Mistakes are made
Just be kinder to yourself, you deserve good things.
2. Don’t let others’ perceptions define who you are
People will say a lot about you. Those negative opinions might not always come from the world outside but from your inner circle as well. Trust me; you are not alone if you had a rough childhood; if you were constantly belittled by the adults in your life for your mistake, for not being ‘good enough’, or for just being who you are.
No one knows you better than you – not even your close ones.
So, when it comes to the negative opinions they form about you, the worst you can do for your self-worth is believe in them. Growing up, we had zero dollars as a family. My dad worked for a farmer and my mom stayed home taking care of us 4 kids until about middle school. We had farm animals, and that’s where all the extra money went, not on clothes that fit us or dining out or even sports. I distinctly remember being made fun of so many times because my stomach was grumbling in 2nd grade because I was hungry, and a kid thought I passed gas in class, and I was too embarrassed to say otherwise. Then everyone’s perception of me changed and I didn’t have the courage to tell them it was because I was hungry.
Another time in 7th grade when I hit puberty and could only fit into 2 pairs of pants, that I wore every other day on alternation, the one pair became too short. A kid I liked called them ‘high waters’ and made fun of me. It mortified me. I avoided that kid as much as possible, which was hard because there were only 48 kids in my class.
There were several times I let myself shrink because other’s opinions of me until I finally realized it doesn’t
Tell yourself this today – I AM CAPABLE. I CAN DO WHATEVER I SET MY MIND ON.
3. Do some self-care
You might not think self-care is important to build self-worth, but it is in its own little ways. Self-care is a great way to tell yourself that you care about yourself and you’re ready to make efforts to make yourself feel good – both physically and spiritually.
Ergo, go out there, pamper yourself with a manicure, take a long relaxing shower, eat healthy food, and exercise. Show yourself that you are important.
4. Be more positive about yourself
Negativity and low self-worth go hand in hand. In fact, when you are struggling with self-worth, you are only fostering a negative point of view about yourself and the world around you. So, the key here is to be positive.
For instance, if you say you don’t have it in you to win this contest, you are only holding a negative opinion about it. So, be positive. Rather say, “I can definitely win this competition if I try hard.”
That being said, affirmations can help you a lot in that regard. Make it a habit to practice some every day. While you are at, don’t write or read the affirmations just for the sake of it, but actually mean them. Firmly believe in them.
We work on this a lot in our house with the girls and their comparison to each other. Leila is older and more capable of things because she is older. Finlee has a hard time grasping that with her 6 year old brain and constantly puts herself down because she doesn’t realize this fact. She is younger but we help her learn positive
5. Don’t let failures bring your self-worth down
If not people, the negative experiences in your life can make your self-worth come crashing down. But just so you know, there’s not a single person who hasn’t failed; there’s not a single person who hasn’t faced rejection. You are not alone!
Even the greatest people from history were rejected, but look where they stood or are standing now. Don’t make failures your foe, or perceive them as a ghost. Face them, and know if you are not doing something right today, doesn’t mean you won’t do it right tomorrow.
If you fail or are rejected in something, tell yourself that you cannot control all the things in your life, but learning from them and doing better while you are at it is certainly possible. Also, understand that failures and rejections are not one-time guests, they will keep coming – so better learn early to deal with it and don’t allow these instances to define your capabilities.
Lastly,
Don’t depend on people to build your self-worth. At the same time, don’t focus on blaming the people for it. Take matters into your own hands. Only you can build your self-worth. It’s not impossible; you just have to believe in the best. Once you believe, that’s the first step to making any change. The change won’t be instantaneous, it will take some time, but I can promise you, it’s absolutely worth it! Even in the hard times and the times you want to give up.
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