You might have a good relationship with people around you – be it your family, friends, or your partner. But, what about your relationship with yourself?
Yes, it is the forgotten road. Not everyone focuses on building a healthy relationship with themselves even when it’s so very essential.
But, why is it so necessary?
Because when you have a good relationship with yourself, you have the confidence to take up any challenge, grow and take the world by the storm. Additionally, a strong relationship is essential for happiness as well. You won’t find happiness in everything that’s around you but in yourself. You have to live inside your skin, and the better relationship you have within that skin, the better off you will be with the environment and people around you.
So, think through, ask yourself, do you have a strong relationship with yourself? If not, worry not, it’s never too late. Here’s a few ways we can help build it.
7 Steps to improve your relationship with yourself
1. Spend some quality time with yourself
You might like hanging out with your friends, your partner, your family, but what about hanging out with yourself? How about
It will help you become happier and satisfied with yourself. You won’t look for anybody else to pass your leisure time with. So, go on and do what you like to do. Spend some time with yourself, whether it is something as big as taking a solo trip, or as little as going on a solo date.
I personally like to do this at least once a week, something new that’s not a normal routine, where I go by myself to do something where I’m the only one who needs the company and entertainment. It helps me get out of my head and focus on what I want. Sometimes it’s lunch where I sit and people watch, sometimes it’s a massage, other times, it’s a walk with the dogs outside to clear my head. Do what makes you feel good and it can be as often as daily depending on your schedule.
2. Pamper your body
What would be the one thing you’d like to change about yourself? Think through.
I bet most of you thought of a zero-size figure, flawless skin, frizzy hair. If you did, it’s a sign that you do not love your body enough when you should because your body is the vessel that contains you. It is sacred, it is divine.
Having said that, you have to love and worship your body even if people don’t. People don’t matter, YOU matter. Besides, people will always demand perfection – and you don’t owe anyone to be perfect.
So, go pamper yourself with a spa session, apply a face mask, moisturize skin, eat healthily – give your body the care it deserves.
3. Stand up for yourself and your needs
You don’t have to sit silent when someone is brutal to you. You don’t have to finish an extra file if it’s past your work time. And you
In short, you have to stand up for yourself. Trust me; no one will come to your rescue except you. At the same time, the world would not recognize and acknowledge your desires if you aren’t blunt about them. As they say, “If you want something, ask for it.” So, whether it is a raise or something else – ask away without the fear of being judged.
We have all had a rough couple of years, and it’s not going to let up any time soon. The sooner you stand up for yourself and not let anyone else put their needs before yours, the better off you will be and the more respect you will have for yourself.
4. Talk to yourself
I know what you might be thinking, and to answer that – No, talking to yourself is not being insane. In fact, ditch the notion that the world has set. If talking to yourself makes you feel better and lighter, there’s no reason you should think twice before doing it.
Doing so will not only be beneficial for your mental health but also it’ll reduce your dependence on people. Now that I have mentioned it, gulp down this bitter truth as well – people cannot be available for you all the time – they have work, they have their own life. So, it’s better to be there for yourself than expecting someone to be there for you.
I talk to myself all the time, it’s quite soothing and encouraging actually. I use it when I need to calm myself down, hype myself up, encourage myself, help reduce the anxiety, shut my brain off and just listen. And so many other situations. I especially use it when I’m working out to get the extra mile or rep when I don’t feel like I can push on. It helps me in so many different ways.
5. Make journaling your friend
I talked about reducing your dependence on others for your emotional needs; journaling is how you do that.
Journaling is ideal to improve mental health because it establishes and improves the relationship you have with yourself. If you feel that you have a lot to vent, or want to feel motivated, or be praised – there’s one solution, write it all out.
And don’t do it for just this once – make journaling your habit. Add it to your lifestyle. You can do so by including journaling in your morning or night routine. Fill a few pages every day and you’ll be the most peaceful.
I find when I’m the most stressed or emotionally charged, journaling allows me to get out everything I am feeling, without judgement of anyone else, and clear my mind. I don’t have to let anyone else see it. It doesn’t need to make sense, can be run on sentences and improper grammar, but it doesn’t matter because its just a brain and emotional dump to get out everything that needs out. I always feel better after journaling.
6. Help yourself, solve your own problems
Things can get tough, you might run into problems, but you don’t have to run to others to solve them. Be there for yourself. Try to solve your problems on your own. Pretend like there’s no one you can go to.
However, if it still doesn’t work out, then feel free to seek help. The idea is not to hesitate or be egoistic to ask for help, the idea is to try to help yourself first. Kids learn this early on when they are developing and learning to crawl or walk – we put the toy or object away from them and encourage them to figure out how to get from where they are to where they want to be, and ultimately encourage them to learn a new skill. It’s not any different, and you might even learn a little resilience you didn’t know you had!
7. Believe in yourself
At the end of the day, low self-worth comes from disbelief in yourself. The reason perhaps you don’t take up a challenge might be because you don’t believe that you can win it. So, the first thing is to believe that you can.
You can do that by suppressing your limiting beliefs, recollecting your past achievements, and being optimistic. All that might change your mindset for the better. Believing in yourself applies to every day life as well, it doesn’t have to be a special occasion or a big moment, apply it to all the moments and see how much change you find in your life.
Finally,
Building a healthy relationship with yourself is neither a one-time process nor a quick one. It takes a lot of time. In fact, it would be appropriate to say it’s a journey. So be patient, and start it. Don’t be impatient to reach the destination; it’s a journey to enjoy. Know that you will continue on the self love and self worth journey with each stage in your life, until you die, so why not start sooner than later?
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