How to Keep the Spark Alive in Your Relationship

All of us know that our life is not a romantic novel, yet all we want is to have a happy ending. We want our relationships to last, but it does not always happen. Even when we have a partner who loves us unconditionally, we always have this fear at the back of the mind… what if it does not last. And we just wonder seeing those old happy-still-in-love couples, how can we have that? How do we ensure that our relationship stays alive till the end of our time? 

We are going to answer all your questions. Meanwhile, you can put aside your worries, and let the love gurus be at work to guide you.

In this article, we are going to tell you about the things you can do to make sure that your relationship lasts.

How to keep the spark alive in your relationship

1. Communication

Love is not the only thing to keep your relationship alive. You need more than that, you need communication. It’s essential to be honest with

your partner and talk about your feelings with them. (Not only when you are having rough days, but all the time). You cannot just have a happy relationship if you barely talk to your partner for days. It does not work like that. Communication is the pillar of any relationship, you cannot avoid that. 

If you don’t know what to talk about anymore, here is an idea – Talk about literally anything, Talk about your day, your future plans, how do you feel, what’s bothering you, and so on! When you have better communication, you can spend quality time better together. Date nights no longer seem dreaded or overlooked when you and your partner both feel loved and communication is the key to everything. 

2. Understand each other a little more

In any relationship, we want to be understood. But in between wanting to be understood, we forget to understand our significant other. Understanding is important, if you don’t have that between you two, then you might hit the rock bottom. 

If you have a hard time understanding your partner, just imagine yourself in their shoes. How would you feel if you were them? What would have you done? Once you do that, you will be a little more accepting and compassionate towards them. When you understand each other and develop an emotional connection, that can make your partner feel even more secure than physical intimacy can as they feel they can trust and know you are on the same page.

3. Let go of grudges

You can have rough patches in a relationship, you can be mad at your partner for something they had done or said. But just so you know, you cannot make it last if you hold grudges against your partner. Be a little easy, and be a little more forgiving. Everyone makes mistakes, but if you think they regret it to their core then it’s time to let go of what you hold against them. Get past it. 

This is the secret to long term couples and even couples who are in relationships over long distances. Never go to bed with a grudge or angry, it only helps in losing the spark faster!

4. Plan surprises

One of the primary reasons why relationships don’t last is because people stop making efforts, and stop doing all the special things they did

for their partners; it’s as if they begin to take things for granted. If that’s so, just remember the beginning of your relationship, how different you had been? You used to go to greater lengths to make the other person smile, now you just come home, grab a beer, watch TV, and sleep. 

If your goal is to make it last, then don’t stop with the efforts. Keep on surprising your partner with cute gestures. For instance, prepare the ambiance, decorate the room with candles and lights before they come back home. Treat them with fancy dinners. Keep on planning dates like you did before, and you will be just fine. 

This one is especially important to understand the 5 love languages and know which your partner prefers. It might be physical touch or quality time or even acts of kindness that help bring the spark for them while yours will probably be something completely different. Understanding this will ensure a long term relationship working and help you to always bring the spark.

5. Spend time with each other

Life happens, and you might get busy amidst a thousand professional obligations. That’s okay, you have work, and sometimes you cannot ignore it. But at the same time, you cannot ignore your relationship. If you cannot spend time with your partner today, then make up for it tomorrow. 

If you are making up the time not spent one day, make sure to do so without your cell phone or social media getting more attention than your partner. I know it should be a given and not necessary to say this, but I will be honest, there are times where Steve and I go out for date night yet work still manages to creep in and we have to consciously remember to put down the phone and enjoy ourselves together. It’s hard, but it’s worth it to keep the relationship going.

Believe it or not, the best gift you can sometimes give to anyone is your time. They might not say anything in order to be understanding, but they crave your presence. The same is true of your children and pets. They just want your time, and life goes by so fast, be sure to be present as often as you can. 

 

Well, that’s all we have to say. Now that you know how to keep the spark alive in your relationship, we do hope that things work out for you, and you become those lovey-dovey, forever-in-love couples we all envy.

How do you keep your relationships alive? Feel free to share your experiences and suggestions with us in the comment section.