Minimalism has gained its sheer popularity for all the right reasons. This concept proved to be life-changing for many people; it simplified their life and allowed them to focus on other integral issues much more effectively.
In a nutshell, it has turned out a blessing especially for moms. You might wonder how? Because being a mom and minimalism seems poles apart; you cannot really bring them together.
Well, you are mistaken. Minimalism and motherhood do go hand in hand. In fact, it makes motherhood quite easy. When you have fewer things at home, you have fewer things to clean, and a wider space to allow free movement. Consequently, you have more time to spend with your family, aka a lifesaver for many moms.
So, without further ado, allow us to bestow all the inspiring secrets of minimalist moms to make it seem all easy.
Inspiring secrets of minimalist moms
1. They know what they want and need
How often have you found yourself debating if you should buy this air-tight jar, or let it go? I bet it has happened plenty of times wherein you have battled with your own desires only to submit in the end because you could not differentiate between what you wanted and what you needed.
Or perhaps you knew the difference but your mind manipulated you into buying that object. It told you, “You cannot let this go. It can be used in the kitchen. It’s SOOOO pretty, you definitely need this (even when you have plenty of jars at home)”
We all have been there; we all have been fooled by our own minds. But as for minimalist moms, they do not let it happen. They know that simply knowing the difference between a want and need is not enough, but that letting or not letting this knowledge affect your purchasing decision is a part of the process.
Your mind will definitely manipulate you, it will submit to temptations, but you don’t have to give it the reins. You have to control your desires and your thought process. If your mind is trying to manipulate you, challenge yourself that you won’t let it succeed, you would not be so gullible after all to fall into the trap of your mind.
2. They have accepted that less is more
All our lives we have dwelled on the supremacy of more. We have focused more on quantity than quality. Not anymore! The times are changing and with it the doctrines. Now is the time when we start believing that less is more.
All because it makes our life easy, and we stress less. It is for these benefits that minimalist moms have upheld the very notion of less is more. They do not simply believe in it but practice it as well. They do not fill their wardrobes with tons and tons of clothes. And they keep a limited quantity and that sorts out most of the things for them.
3. They know it is a group activity
As a mom, if you want minimalism to work, then you cannot elude your family’s inclusion. In other words, minimalism is more likely to work when it is adopted and practiced by all the members of the family. This is the challenge here because it’s one thing to practice minimalism yourself, and another to persuade your family to do the same.
All the more, it’s not something that you can all of a sudden ask your family to practice. It takes a change of habits, and as a mother, it needs to be included in your child’s upbringing. You have to raise your kids in such a way that they become minimalists. It has to become their way of life, it should be something that they have seen all their lives, and collected their takeaways from that.
In simple words, they need to learn minimalism from the atmosphere at home. When they see you, they will try to imitate you and that’s how they will learn. It’s a group activity and meant to be practiced together. In addition to that, you can encourage them to follow some minimalist practice to manifest into their habits and daily routine.
4. For children, it starts with toys
Tell me if it does not take hours for you to assemble your kid’s toys because there are just so many of them. It’s like your house is made of toys, not bricks.
Okay, it was a little exaggeration but it is true, our kids have lots and lots of toys, defeating the purpose of minimalism.
Now that you realize it, you know what your goal and target will be. If you have to teach minimalism to your kids, you have to start with their toys. You have to encourage them to opt for fewer toys, declutter from time to time, or donate them to those in need.
You also do not have to submit to their whims and desires in the first place. Don’t buy them every toy they point their fingers at. If you do so, you would not only be filling your home with toys but will make your kids materialists and stubborn in the future,
5. Occasional decluttering
Minimalism and decluttering are mutually exclusive. Minimalist moms occasionally declutter their homes. They do not keep things that are of zero value to them – that includes broken objects, objects they haven’t used in years even when they look new and pretty. In short, they are firm when they declutter.
They do not let things stay, they know what will be of use to them; they do not engage in a constant debate with their brain, they just throw things out if they know they won’t use them.
6. Reuse and recycling
Just so you know, when being a minimalist, you are consciously or unconsciously practicing environmentalism. Going by the simple logic, when you own fewer things, you are not exploiting the earth of its materials and natural resources. At the same time, as a minimalist mom, your goal is to reduce wastage as well. You reuse, recycle rather than buying more things.
7. They go digital
Minimalist moms know that technology can be their best friend if they make optimal use of them. For starters, they use technology to reduce clutter around the homes.
If you are looking forward to becoming a minimalist mom, you can do the same. You can limit your consumption of newspapers, and settle for digital newspapers. At the same time, you don’t increase clutter by investing in books, but you go for an e-reader, or kindle reader instead.
At the same time, they prefer keeping digital backups of their important documents. All the more when they go out, they request the shopkeepers to mail them bills instead of carrying a paper copy with them and create unnecessary clutter.
Well, that’s all there is. We have disclosed all the inspiring secrets of minimalist moms. I hope their secrets have inspired you to take up minimalism to make your lives better, simpler, and easy.
If you happen to know more secrets or have your opinions about the concept of minimalism, feel free to drop your views in the comments section. If you are still on the fence about how minimalism can help you, check out these blog posts on the topic:
Every experience can teach you a lot. Whether it is working a job, or going on a trip, there are always lessons you can learn to become better individuals and make wise life choices. Surprisingly, even in little instances, little experiences have their own significance when they can give you a lot of takeaways – both big and small.
One such little moment for me, was when I decluttered my wardrobe. I learned a lot more than just facts that decluttering is tough, and I owned a huge wardrobe.
Here are the ten lessons that will stay with me, all carrying trivial and big revelations.
10 Lessons I learned from decluttering my wardrobe
1. I have wasted a lot of money
When you are decluttering your wardrobe, there are not just one or two pieces of clothing you discard, there’s a bunch full of them – including the clothes that we bought but only wore once or twice. Now imagine how much we could have saved, had we made better purchasing decisions. Sounds relatable enough? If yes, then learn from my mistakes. Buy only those clothes that you know you would wear certainly.
2. What I thought I wanted, was what I merely needed
“I want it.”, that’s the constant thought I get whenever I find a dress captivating. There’s a desperate urge to buy clothes even when I am trying to save money. Well, I don’t know if that’s your weak spot, but it’s definitely mine.
Nonetheless, it was only after decluttering, I realized that what I thought I wanted, was just my urge. And when it comes to that, it’s not difficult to control once you realize that the world won’t collapse if your wardrobe doesn’t have that attire.
3. We can never be satisfied
I have heard from the saints, from the legends that we humans can never be satisfied. It is not some kind of epiphany but it definitely felt like it while I was decluttering. I owned so many clothes – only because I was never satisfied with what I had. Satisfaction comes from gratitude. We need to be more grateful for the things we have.
4. Less is Better
When it came to shopping fashion, I always believed having less is worse. I didn’t see the bigger picture back then. But now I do; ever since I got rid of a stack full of clothes – I don’t have less, I have more. And somehow, having less feels better. I realized it when I saw my closet emptier than before – it feels light. It’s as if a heavy load has been dropped off my chest. I also realize how much shopping was emotional for me and not in a good way. It was a coping mechanism verses an actual need of things.
5. Going with the trend and comparing is not important
Life is too short to worry about trivial things. Things like – “I have to keep up with the trend” “People might judge me if I dress shabbily.” “I want people to like me, even if that involves doing an expensive, and unaffordable wardrobe makeover”
Now that I think about it, it doesn’t matter – you don’t have to keep up with the fashion – the world won’t be affected. Moreover, you belong with the people who like you for being you – not your wardrobe.
6. We must strive to be in the present – even when picking a wardrobe
How often do you find yourself buying outfits for a future party that hasn’t been decided yet? I bet it happens all the time. But trust me, when it comes to wardrobe picking, never shop from a future perspective unless you know the event is certain to happen. Moreover, don’t shop for too many categories of clothes you know you wouldn’t wear frequently.
7. Material things only give temporary joy
This was something I already know, but it hit me only after decluttering. I remember how happy I was after buying a dress I liked. One week later, and after constant wear, it didn’t even matter.
8. “What-if” items are just a waste of space
Go back to the last time you were decluttering – you kept a few things wondering, “What if you’ll need it later?” Now, where are those things? Do you use them or are they still lying as they were back then?
I bet it’s the latter. But you’re not alone, it’s a universal story. Nonetheless, there’s no point in keeping “What-if things” because if you didn’t use it until now, you are not going to use it later – as simple as that.
9. Decluttering can significantly reduce stress
Are you finding the magic potion to manage stress? Trust me, decluttering can help a lot. It can reduce stress significantly – including the decluttering stress, the morning rush, and most importantly, I-cannot-find-the-dress-I-want-to-wear stress.
10. Decluttering is not a one-time process
You may get rid of some things, but things will be the same. I mean, over time you will buy new things and at the same time, you’ll find a lot of things that you wouldn’t need. So, decluttering is not a one-time process, it should be a regular practice that you must involve yourself in at least once a month.
Hey there, are there some lessons you learned too while decluttering? If yes, feel free to share them with us in the comment section.
Do you open your closet and fall against your back beneath a pile of clothes? Do you take hours to find that top you want to wear? If yes, it means your closet is full of stuff you don’t need; and you need to declutter.
However, I do know that decluttering can be a struggle. I mean how often have you taken out, and put back clothes in a conflict? So, the point is, decluttering requires letting go. And as they say, letting go is not easy. Nonetheless, it’s important if you want peace. If you want to attack your whole house, I encourage you to read Marie Kondo’s book, The Life Changing Magic of Tidying Up. When I read this book the first time, my life completely changed. I found so much more space in my home and felt so much better about myself. I often revisit the principals and do my decluttering at least once a month. Let’s get started on a very easy, but also difficult area, your clothes. Here are a few tips I use often when I’m decluttering and deciding what to keep and not. These work well with anyone in your family, even the kids.
How to Declutter your Clothes
1. Separate the clothes you frequently wear, and those you don’t
Letting go of clothes requires a tough heart. But before you must get to that, how about starting easy?
So, the first step is to segregate the clothes you frequently wear, and those you don’t. The first batch is definitely the one you won’t have to let go of. While for the former, you know you have to. If you have seasons and want to start with clothes you haven’t worn all season, like sweater or jeans or dresses, this makes quick work.
Now the logic behind this segregation is, it won’t be much of a struggle with clothes you don’t wear and you don’t care about. These are the ones you can let go of easily. If you haven’t worn them all season, they go right into the pile, especially if the seasons are about to change. However, sometimes even that can be troublesome. If the struggle seems familiar, you might want to follow the next step.
2. Separate the ones that are worn out or those that don’t fit you anymore
Worn-out clothes – those that look old and ragged, or have threads pulling out, buttons broken, with tears- are easy to let go because there’s no reason to keep them – making the first lot that you can get rid of, easily.
Next, coming to those clothes that don’t fit you anymore. You might be tempted to keep them on a pretense that you’ll get back in shape. I often do this with workout clothes that are too big but still in good shape. I always think about how much money was spent on them and try to wear them again, even if they are falling down when I try to run. It’s honestly more frustrating and I always take that clothing item off, sometimes mid workout, and put it in the donate pile, because it’s so annoying. But I’m not going to gain the weight back or lose the muscle I have so I won’t fit into them again. You need to ask yourself the same, will you commit to a routine where you can wear them again, or not? Would you be able to exercise regularly? Would you be able to eat clean? Are you committed to achieving being able to wear the item again?
Be honest with yourself here. If you think you cannot fit into them again – let go. If you think otherwise, separate those clothes and give them a one-month timeline. During this month, you have to exercise, eat clean, and try to reduce the fat no matter what. If you manage to do that, feel free to keep them. If not – you know what to do.
3. Know where to donate your clothes
Kindness feels good. Sometimes when you know you are donating your clothes to those in need, your heart gets bigger. In other words, you let go without much of a struggle. So, if you want to seriously let go of clothes, and want to help someone, talk to an orphanage or social services regarding clothes donation. Once you do that, clothing donation would seem like an obligation (It’s a good thing).
Here in Arizona, there are drop off boxes for shoes, clothes, household items, books and similar items that benefit local charities. I feel better about taking my items that are still in good shape to these places because they do get a second life with someone who can use them. Obviously, if the clothes are stained or not in good shape, I don’t add them to the pile. Other items I take to Goodwill because they don’t fit into the above mentioned categories.
4. Ask yourself all the decluttering questions
Decluttering can be a struggle, but it can become fairly easy if you ask yourself the right questions. Here is the checklist.
“Do I really like this piece of clothing?”
“Do I wear these kinds of clothes?”
“Would I really have them altered?”
“Is there going to be a party anytime soon, where I can wear it?”
“Am I not letting it go because it’s in good condition, knowing that I don’t wear it?”
“Am I not letting go because it created a hole in my pocket?”
“Does this item bring me joy?” — Marie Kondo question
Once you ask these questions, it’s a no-brainer that you have to be honest with yourself. Nonetheless, if you are conflicted about the last two questions – trust me there’s no use in creating unnecessary space even when it’s in good condition. If you are donating, someone can use it. Secondly, if it was expensive, it’s in the past, you cannot get the money back, so there’s no point in holding it either. And if someone can use that expensive item and actually enjoy and use it, it’s serving them better than sitting in your closet collecting dust and taking up space.
This deserves another section because it’s something sensitive. Sometimes you don’t keep clothes because you think they’re in perfectly good condition, or you wasted money on them, but because those clothes are souvenirs of moments or people. Holding onto these items can mean you are not moving on.
So, ask yourself, “Is it the right thing to do?” “What are other ways I can remember this person or moment?” Sometimes, you can look in your phone and find a photo of the clothing item, the person or experience, and keep the memory that way versus the clothing item.
It’s you who has to make the call.
Lastly, Make it a routine
You might want one piece of clothing really bad this month, but a few months later, you might even forget about it because you wouldn’t like it anymore. It’s human nature – we get bored and tired of things, especially clothes, that’s why we keep buying new, not because we own fewer of them.
So, it is highly suggestible to evaluate your clothes every now and then, make it a routine. Trust me, decluttering cannot be a one-time process, because of the same reason mentioned above, and because we own too much. We change, clothes change, as do the seasons. It’s important to remember it’s ok to change and want different things, just remember to sort out your closet as much as you change your mind.
Nonetheless, once again, to make it easier, you need to ask yourself all the right questions. (The ones I listed above, in the previous section) and answer honestly.
Hey there, do you find decluttering hard? Feel free to share your views and ideas with us in the comment section.
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At the end of the day, all we want is a good, healthy, and fun relationship with our families. We want to hang out with our loved ones, laugh over lame jokes, talk about our favorite movie characters, and go on fun vacations with them, it’s what everyone desires.
Yet such a relationship is not easy to establish. It takes effort; it takes understanding, and last but not least communication. If you are a parent, I am sure you want that kind of relationship. You want your children to walk up to you with their problems, hang out with you like they do with their friends. In a nutshell, you want to establish an interesting, and enjoyable relationship with your children.
But the question remains HOW. But why worry when we are here to help. The secret to a healthy family relationship is bonding. The more you bond with them, the more enjoyable your relationship will become. In other words, bonding is a great exercise to bring people closer together. So, here are some family bonding ideas you can keep in your toolkit.
50 family bonding ideas
1. Have regular movie nights.
While you are at it, make sure you pick interesting movies. Perhaps you can also have your debate after watching the movie.
Whether it is a game of UNO or Monopoly, don’t forget to roast each other. Go as crazy as you can. You can even mix it up now with all the different versions of UNO or Monopoly and include your pets in the pet version!
3. Cook together.
A family that cooks together stays together. So cook lavish dinners or bake cakes together, it will allow you some time with each other. It can also teach kids how to prepare food later, or even can be a bonding experience and memory with an elderly member of the family. I remember growing up making homemade noodles with my grandma and shaking out the dough to this day.
4. Solve crosswords together.
Most of us share a love for crosswords. If you all happen to be puzzle addicts, solving puzzles together is yet another great way to bond. You can challenge each other to make it more enjoyable.
5. Work on a scrapbook together.
If you happen to have little kids, then creating scrapbooks can be one of the most enjoyable activities for them. You can prepare a family scrapbook with all your family pictures, and decorate it with stars and mirrors to make the activity even more fun.
6. Go out for a drive.
When the air is fresh, and the atmosphere around screams out calling your name, why would you not go? Drives are the perfect opportunities to go on and enjoy the weather together.
7. Have a dance party.
Don’t let your age stop you. You are never too old to dance, even with your kids. Be your crazy self, show them your weird moves and let them show theirs. Dance like no one’s watching. We sometimes also do singalongs in the car because it’s fun and the kids know the song, and it’s different.
8. Challenge them with a book reading.
If you happen to have a family full of avid readers, books are a great medium to bond. Read a book together, and when you are done, engage in book-related conversations.
9. Write a funny poem together, make weird rhymes while you are at it, and laugh together.
10. Declutter together.
11. Have a family album time.
Just lie down, and reminisce about the old days. This could be flipping through your phone or a digital album now that most things are online.
12. Go go-karting.
13. Play video games together.
Need for speed, counter strike? Make your pick; video games are the best creations of humans.
14. Take weird pictures of each other.
Don’t forget to blackmail your family into putting it online.
15. Go for a long walk.
16. If you cannot keep the adrenaline in control, go hiking with your family.
17. Unleash the tickle monster inside you.
Start the battle, and make them gasp for breath.
18. Do random acts of kindness together, go to an old age center or orphanage, talk to people there.
Doing so will encourage your kids to be kind.
19. Exercise together.
Research shows that when you have an exercise partner, you are more motivated to get on track with your fitness.
20. Bake some muffins and cupcakes together.
21. Talk about business and financial markets with your family.
This is for the family with grown-ups. Turns out, the financial market is a great topic to have a conversation about.
22. Learn a skill together.
23. I bet this will be your favorite! Karaoke nights!
Just sing aloud at the top of your voice and have the time of your lives.
24. Go for a vacation.
After all, we all deserve a little break from our hectic, mundane lives.
25. Practice gratitude together.
Start a conversation about the three things you all are grateful for.
26. Go shopping together.
This has to be one of your favorites on the list.
27. Organize treasure hunts for the whole family.
28. Help each other in their work.
29. Create a budget together.
30. Create a family bucket list!
You must have done it with your friends, try your family for a change.
31. Have a bonfire night.
32. Become each others’ stylists for a day.
33. Enjoy a sport together.
Basketball, Football, or baseball? Playing YOUR FAVORITE sport with your family is a great opportunity to bond, and burn some extra calories together.
34. Paint rooms together. Does your room require much-needed paint?
Perfect, you all can paint rooms together, and while you are at it, perhaps paint each other as well.
35. Have a pillow fight.
Pillow fights are just FUN! So let the battle begin.
36. Have all the meals together.
Forget having dinners in your separate rooms. Have a rule that mealtime is bonding time.
37. Clean together.
You must dread this chore, yet when you do it together you might be able to enjoy it, and bond with your family in the process.
38. Have a musical weekend.
Sitting together with a drink in your hand, and listening to songs together as a family? How does that sound? Well, one word, peaceful.
39. Plan surprise birthday parties.
Birthdays are special days; use this opportunity to make your family members feel loved.
40. Indulge in teaching sessions with your kids.
Bond over mathematics, or science; be your kid’s teacher at home.
41. Go for car test drives.
Most family members share a love for cars. If yours does too, go for occasional test drives, or car museums for the matter.
42. Talk about feelings.
Your relationship with kids would be the strongest if you all talk about feelings with zero hesitation.
43. Tell them your stories.
Remember how I met your Mother? Kids love to hear stories from back to the days when you were young.
44. Leave notes.
It’s a great idea to take some time out to pamper your family members with cute notes.
45. Decorate the house together.
46. Go out on adventures.
Whether it is a simple boat ride, or paragliding itself, going out for adventures is the most thrilling.
47. Cuddle them with hugs, and make them feel loved.
48. Play the imitation game.
As the name suggests, imitate each other, and laugh together.
49. Do crafts together.
50. Mention each other’s qualities and annoying habits.
I will say, many of these items on this list are regulars in our house. Especially dance parties, selfie time, looking at digital albums, cuddling, crafting, and working out together. We also enjoy putting in sweat equity together which helps us all feel invested into the project and allows Steve and I to share things we learned growing up with Leila and Finlee. Every moment is a teachable moment as well as a memory and chance to bond. Don’t think because it’s not on this list, it doesn’t count! You may have your own way of bonding as a family completely different from mine!
How often have you found your kid being stubborn to get a toy they liked? And later for another, until it goes on and on, and there’s no stop to your kids’ desires even when they already have something similar right at home.
When it comes to raising children, an essential part of it is inculcating good values to ensure that they become kind humans when they grow up. One of these values is gratefulness. But even when every parent wants that; they think that it’s almost impossible because the world in which they live is driven by materialistic temptations.
While we cannot help but accept this harsh reality, at the same time, we must believe in the power of our values and upbringing. If we feed in strong values in them, they won’t rebound. They’ll stick to them because it will become their way of life.
In other words, if you’ll teach your kids to be grateful for things they have from the very start, then they might not grow up to be materialistic and ungrateful people. They will know their values, and they will live by them.
How to Raise Grateful Kids in an Entitled World
I have a personal story of someone in my immediate family who I believe was not given these tools to be grateful. And as an adult, and an older adult, they still haven’t learned how to be grateful. This person throws a fit when they don’t get what they believe they deserve, not need, even though money isn’t readily available to have the thing they want. Until they get something they want, they won’t talk to their spouse or will make their life miserable until the other person gives in and gets what they want, even if it means going without other necessary things like food or electricity.
It’s a hard thing to watch, honestly. And my girls have experienced it first hand from this person. And Steve and I remind them every day to not be like this person. It’s not a good look and it makes people really angry and not want to be around them.
Just in case, you are wondering how to raise them to be grateful, this article is all you need.
Here are 7 ways to raise grateful kids in an entitled world:
1. Stop rewarding them
Yes, rewarding kids makes your work easy – kids finish their milk, pick up their toys. And you save a lot of energy by not running after them. A win-win!
But is it really a win-win? Because even though you both get what you wanted, you cannot ignore that your constant rewards are inculcating no good value in them. In fact, you are training your kids to be materialistic and greedy in the future.
The thing is when you keep on rewarding your kids, they would never do things because they should. Right now, they are expecting something in return, later when they grow up to be adults they will never consider doing good things just out of their heart- they will always be greedy to want something or the other.
Thus, now is the time to reflect on your methods and tricks as a parent. Take extra efforts, don’t opt for rewarding schemes. Even if you have to, don’t offer material things as rewards – but some other privileges like allowing them to choose a restaurant for your next dine-out, a star sticker perhaps on their hands for being good. But even when you are at it, just limit it, ensure that you don’t use the reward system exceedingly, and make your child dependent on it.
2. Allow your kids to do their chores
Your kids might be kids, but it does not give them a free pass to not do their chores. On the contrary, when you do their chores, you are offering them comfort and privileges; kids never learn to be grateful when they are in their comfort zone. They must know what it’s like to be on their feet all day doing this chore and that. The only way to let them know is to allow them to do the chores themselves. You do not have to ask them to do all the work, but only their chores – like cleaning up their rooms, washing their dishes, etc.
For the record, when kids do their chores, they also learn to become independent in life; it also inculcates a sense of responsibility and maturity in them. At the same time, they become grateful because once they start doing the chores themselves, they realize and acknowledge all the efforts that you put in for them. If you need some support and help with this one, read my post on the topic HERE.
3. Practice gratitude with them
When you have to raise your kids to be grateful, practicing gratitude daily can significantly help. You can encourage them to create their gratitude journal wherein they write down two things they are grateful for, every day.
To heighten their interest, you can encourage them to be creative. You can ask them to doodle, paint, or calligraph their words so they enjoy the process as well. However, you do have to make sure that they do not see it as a kind of obligation. They should practice gratitude because they want to and because they mean what they write down.
Mind that, children learn more from you than the world outside. Thus, if you practice gratitude as well, perhaps they’ll end up picking the same habit. This is a HUGE one in my house because I grew up seeing the other side of this and knew I didn’t want anything to do with that.
4. Interact with kids
When you have a relationship wherein there’s unhampered communication; your kids will have a free, interesting, and healthy upbringing. You can use communication to raise them to be grateful. For instance, you can start a conversation wherein you begin by mentioning things you are grateful for. Then, you can invite them to do the same.
We recently went to Disneyland because both girls are finally old enough to remember the experience since we went in 2016 and Finlee (pictured here) was only 8 months old back then. Now that she’s 6 we could have a conversation and figure out what she really wanted to see and do as well as what Leila (almost 11 now) wanted to do/see to maximize our time and see everything. It was great getting to have a conversation with the both of them separately as well as together to get on the same page. I make a point every day to speak to them even if it’s in the car on the way to school or swim practice. Every little bit helps and I know they enjoy it and listen because it generally comes back later in conversation about what we spoke about and their lesson.
Simultaneously, you can make use of nighttime stories to inculcate good values in them. Children learn a lot from stories, so you can perhaps pick a story that communicates the good value of gratefulness. There’s always a lesson to be learned, even if it’s something you might not feel is important — kids are always listening and watching.
5. Change your ways of life
As mentioned before, children learn a lot from you. This means you have to change your habits which are promoting the opposite of gratefulness. Starting from your shopping instincts – you cannot be a spontaneous shopper in front of them; you would be promoting materialism if you do so.
Secondly, you have to teach them the importance of money. Your children need to know that money is hard to earn, which is why they must be grateful for what they have, and what you earn for them. You can’t just teach them to ask for something that costs money and it automatically appear. They have to know things aren’t free and money is require for them to get things.
6. Allow them to cherish moments
Looking for a birthday gift for your kid? Well, how about gifting them moments and memories instead of a brand-new remote-controlled car?
That being said, your goal should be to raise children in such a way that they value experiences, moments, and memories, not things. When they value these intangible aspects of life, they’ll bother less about tangible things. This is my number 1 suggestion and ask when my girls have birthdays, Christmas, or any other time they would get a gift. I always say we can provide everything they need, and even things they want at times, so their time and memories are more important with the gift giver than things. Sometimes people listen, and I’ve come to learn that those who continually get them gifts instead of spending time don’t want to put in the effort, sadly. And my girls are learning who they can count on and who they want to spend time with, for fun, not just on holidays.
7. Encourage them to be kind and giving
Kindness is the greatest gift. Unfortunately, we live in a world wherein parents do not emphasize the value of kindness. They teach them abacus and poems, but they forget preaching kindness.
If you have to raise grateful kids, you have to encourage kindness. You have to let them know that there’s a world out there that is not blessed with the privileges that they have, which is why they must be grateful and at the same time, do their best to make it a better place.
For the said purpose, you can do the following.
Go out for a donation drive every month as a family.
Encourage your kids to donate their extra clothes and toys.
Go out to orphanages and interact with the people there.
Encourage them to help out other kids at school.
Encourage them to share their lunch with those in need.
Encourage them to be good Samaritans and volunteer for good causes.
Lastly…
Gratefulness can neither be taught nor learned in a few days. It takes months, years, but most importantly, it takes a change of habits, and lifestyle to develop a grateful outlook. So, if you are a parent who is trying, we hope these tips help you out in the endeavor.
of times wherein you have battled with your own desires only to submit in the end because you could not differentiate between what you wanted and what you needed.
The times are changing and with it the doctrines. Now is the time when we start believing that less is more. 
your house is made of toys, not bricks.
by the simple logic, when you own fewer things, you are not exploiting the earth of its materials and natural resources. At the same time, as a minimalist mom, your goal is to reduce wastage as well. You reuse, recycle rather than buying more things. 
the clothes that we bought but only wore once or twice. Now imagine how much we could have saved, had we made better purchasing decisions. Sounds relatable enough? If yes, then learn from my mistakes. Buy only those clothes that you know you would wear certainly.
want people to like me, even if that involves doing an expensive, and unaffordable wardrobe makeover”
decluttering stress, the morning rush, and most importantly, I-cannot-find-the-dress-I-want-to-wear stress.
other words, you let go without much of a struggle. So, if you want to seriously let go of clothes, and want to help someone, talk to an orphanage or social services regarding clothes donation. Once you do that, clothing donation would seem like an obligation (It’s a good thing). 
include oatmeal cereal or quinoa porridge. Lunch meal ideas consist of cinnamon crusted chicken with brown rice or spaghetti squash bolognese . For dinner meal kits, you can choose meals like beef stroganoff with vegetables or pan roasted salmon with pesto zoodles. With pizza night, pasta night, taco night, and many others to choose from, there’s something for everyone at Splendid Spoon!
reset or 3 day reset, depending on your selection.
you not go? Drives are the perfect opportunities to go on and enjoy the weather together. 
not running after them. A win-win
healthy upbringing. You can use communication to raise them to be grateful. For instance, you can start a conversation wherein you begin by mentioning things you are grateful for. Then, you can invite them to do the same.
remote-controlled car?
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